Dear Maggie 2.0,
I wish to write you a letter to address some of the concerns you had 10 years ago.
When you turned 20, life wasn’t that great all the time. Your birthday felt like a sad thing, as most of your friends didn’t have time for you. So you got drag to a party as a sympathetic gesture by your sister. I know you still cringe a bit by the thought of that day.
But was it all that bad? No, it wasn’t over the past 10 years you have evolved as the world around you moves. It might not always seem like it, but you have.
You have learnt at lot about who you are, faced your fears, given up and restarted.
Over the past 10 years you have had 7 jobs, 3 cars, 2 boyfriends, 1 apartment and 1 house.
7 jobs might seem like a lot, but considering you have been downsized 3 times, unemployed 2 times – there isn’t much math to it really.
The 3 cars on the other hand. The first had a crash magnet inside it, second always wanted to die and the third – your current car, is a good one.
The 2 boyfriends are different from one another, your learned something when breaking up with the first and moving on life. The second one was a keeper, he is still her 7 years after. Remember that day? It’s almost 7 years since, did you imagine that you would marry him in a few years? No? Good, life has some pretty fun suprises in store for you.
The keeper, you moved in with him. 3 months after you first had an encounter, you decided it was a good idea. Some might call it insane, but considering you are marrying the guy – it had to be something special. 3 months later, you owned your first apartment or at least 50% of it. From your 20th birthday until your 30th you have moved a totalt of 5 times, sometimes far and sometimes more local. The last move that we are going for as the permanent one was to your new house, not to big or to small – perfect. There is still plenty to do and fix, but all in due time.
And your family? Well during the 10 years, there have been ups, downs and losses. But there has also been to pretty awesome additions as well, a nephew first and then the little niece afterwards. Somehow they make a grey day the best.
It might seem a bit scary to move over to 3.0, but remember how far away it seems when you went for 1.0 to 2.0. The transition is seamless, but the changes are there. And if you try to remember all of the trial and errors of 2.0, it might not be so bad.
Out of all the things you have learned during the 10 years, there is one that sticks out. Asking for helping and accepting what is. It seems to be working a lot better for you then shutting the world outside. You are stronger then you look and braver then you could ever have imagined. You have done great.
Try to remember the good things, treasure them like they are family heirlooms to be handed down on from generation to generation. Because that’s kind of what they are, something to hold on to when the sky is grey and the rain is pouring down.
One more thing, Happy Birthday 30th Maggie. You made it this far, it just shows how much you can change. Enjoy your day.
I wish you the best of luck on your journey from 3.0 to 4.0 over the next 10 years. I belive in you.