Most of my 20’s I thought I was alone on not having a plan for my life, because everyone else seemed to have it all figured out(in other words: I thought they had their shit together.).
When I went to junior highs school, I had big plans for my life. I want to work in Formula 1 or for NASA.
I was told by my teachers that it would never happen as I apparently sucked at math. They were right about me sucking at math (but to be hones, it wasn’t all on me! It was their job to teach me!) and I still find it odd that they wanted to crush someones dreams by saying something like that – they could have said it in a nicer way and with better wording.
I grew up being bullied from 1st grade until I finished high school, not only by students – but the occasional teacher as well. I was told I was stupid by the teachers. The students stuck to fat, ugly and weirdo. I guess I was an easy target. (At least I know where my insecurities come from!)
Even if I didn’t enjoy school, I got through it. My grades weren’t that great, but I finished.
In high school I ended up doing the work related education, I didn’t want to go to school so I choose the fastest way out – 2 years of school and then 2 years as an apprentice.
When I look back at it, for me it was the right thing to do – even if it wasn’t my original plan or my goal – it turns out I did the right thing.
In my late 20’s I started night classes, I got my high school diploma – with mainly GOOD grades(in your face old teachers who had no faith in me!)!
I have done things the other way around, compare to most of my friends.
I did think about college or university when I was done, but it was to expensive since I actually own a house, a car and have commitments in life. Considering my age and financially good income – I couldn’t afford to just study something that wouldn’t get me anywhere. So I reconsidered and opted for no, I’m sticking to what I have.
I decided that if a future employer wishes to pay for me going to college or university I am more than happy to do so. Other than that, I think I'm doing pretty good.
I recently learned that most of my friends didn’t have a plan when chosing subjects for college, either they did what their parents saw fitting or what everyone else was doing. Some have even said they have regrets not doing what I did.
I’m happy with my choices, they have given me so many great opportunities and I got there on my own. No one gave me the ideas or pushed me.
Maybe I’m still not a mathwiz, but I’m better than I was. So maybe Formula 1 or NASA wasn’t in the books for me. But at least I did something decent with my life.
I guess no one actually has a plan for life. Some might. But I prefer to think that most of us don’t. And I prefer to wing it.
As long as we enjoy what we do, there be a result and we are surviving.