Let’s talk money!
But I have unlimited resources you say!
But I only want a small intimate thing-a-ma-jig.
Well, there will most likely still be expenses. Unless you are going for a “Just us and the sidekicks (aka witnesses)”.
Budget? Holy Mac ‘n Cheese! Where to begin.
- Clothing, shoes and everything related to that – for us
- Clothing, shoes and everything related to that – for the two sidekicks we need as witnesses that we are actually insane enough to go through with this!
- Clothing, shoes and everything related to that – for the two tiny people I will bribe with hugs, birthday and christmas gifts, candy and auntie-like-actions.
- Food – in this category we put anything edible!
- Drink – anything you would glugg down during the day and night.
- Paper goods – invitations, place cards and what-not-made-out-of-paper.
- Flowers – pretty things, but it was everything from the bouquet, flower arrangements to well flowers!
But honestly, you will find you way with it all – but this gives you some weird idea of how to get started.
What? Who? Hey?
Are you and your partner paying for the wedding? Parents splitting it 50/50? Are you splitting with the parents 1/3 each?
We are paying:
This is our option, we are the solemn providers of the bacon for the shabang. If our parents would like to contribute – we are OK with it, but we are the main providers hence – WE DECIDE! Your opinion, isn’t all that relevant to us! (OK, it’s a lie I care what they say – I just don’t always follow the sayings!)
Parents splitting 50/50:
Make sure you delegate who pays what! Also remember you might have to back down on a few things you don’t like that they like or think you need to have at your wedding (this also goes for the guests, more on that one later!).
I’m not saying you shouldn’t fight for what is really important to you when it comes to the wedding planning, but keep this in mind “Who’s paying?” <- it will most likely be used against you – unless you have parents that are non-control freaks and just let you do your thing!
Splitting with the parent 1/3, parent 1/3 and you 1/3:
A lot from the above applies, especially the delegation part. And also, you have still allowed you parents to have a saying. But you need to take control of the parts that are most important for you!
How much now?
Where to put the money!
Number one. Who are you inviting? You need a rough head count of people you want to invite.
Number two. Get in touch with church, registration office (or whatever is used for civil ceremony where you live) venues, caterers, etc. To find out the price and from there you decide on what you want (AGAIN! More on that later!).
Number three. What’s important for you? Is it the dress, the food, free bar, the photographer or the flowers? Considering this will help you to decide on where to put most of your money.
Number four. How much can you save every month? How much do you have saved up already? This gives you an idea on what you have to spend!
Stick to the budget!
If your dress budget is 500$/€/or-what-ever-your-money-is, do not try on a dress that is way out of your budget. You will only end up being disappointed when you can’t buy it!
If you go above the budget you have set on one post – you will have to use less on another post, unless you can actually afford going above budget!